Growing up, there was a local water park that some friends and I would attend many days during the summer. In the middle of the large swimming pool area was a tall blue platform used for diving. To an adult, this structure was average in height but to a kid it was like jumping off a cliff.
I wanted so much to dive off that platform but each time I climbed up and looked over the edge, I stopped. No matter how much I tried, I just could not make myself jump. The reason was that my level of fear was greater than my level of desire.
I wished I could tell you that I eventually made it to the top and dove down into the blue water below. But I can’t because I never did. To which it has always been a reminder of just how powerful fear can be and how much it can impact our lives.
Identify Then Conquer
Though it was merely a pool and a diving board, I have used that memory as a driving force for many things. Because so, I have been able to conquer great things in my life that naturally I would have backed down from. And I want to help you do the same.
You first have to identify the root of the fear and then conquer it head on.
You see, my fear was from the height and not the outcome. Nobody was dying or getting hurt from diving. They were actually having a great time. So I wasn’t afraid of being hurt. I was afraid of the jump.
“In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.” – Bill Cosby
Maybe you have a similar memory. Maybe you are facing one right now. If so, ask yourself what is it that you are truly afraid of that is causing you to not dive into it.
Is it the fear of:
- Failure: We all fail, but to fail doesn’t mean you automatically lose. You only lose if you don’t try again. Know that successful people don’t lose. They learn and go again.
- Doing something new: Everything you have ever done was new at one point. You will never finish what you do not start.
- The unknown: You are only guaranteed one thing in life and that is death. Everything else is unknown. Do something great before you die.
- Embarrassment: This is usually something we greatly enlarge within ourselves than what is actually occurring in real life.
- Not being good at it: Guess what? If this is your first time, then you will not be good at it. Nobody is good at new ventures until they do it and do it many many times.
When you come to a project you believe is too large or is overwhelming at just the thought of completing, don’t let it stop you. Dive In!
When you want to start a new business but you don’t because you have never owned a business before, don’t hold back. Dive In!
When you desire to change careers but it requires sacrifice and possibly moving to a new place, don’t believe it is not to be. Dive In!
The “Perfect” Time Myth
Don’t wait for the elusive “perfect” time. I will tell you a secret I have learned over the years about the “perfect” time. That time is NOW.
Yes, when you are passionate and excited to do something, that IS the perfect time to do it. Don’t wait. Dive In!
Put Action Into It
The bottom line is this:
In order to conquer your fear, it takes bold action. So the next time when you are on the edge of a dream and the desire for it to happen is burning inside of you, remember to attack your fear with action and DIVE IN!